First, a bit of etiquette: the shower is usually hosted by the maid or matron of honor, or a close family friend. The guest list should include only people who have been invited to the wedding, unless the shower is hosted by co-workers.
Showers are traditionally held a month or two before the wedding; this can be a very stressful and busy time for the bride, so make sure the date fits into her schedule before making all the arrangements.
Showers are supposed to help the bride and groom equip their new home, so theyre often planned around a specific theme: recipe showers, camping showers, linen showers, etc.
In choosing a theme, consider things that are important to the bride. Does she love to cook? Consider a recipe party. Does she like to entertain? How about a stock the bar shower? Is the couple moving into a new home after the wedding? A tool shower can help them collect the essentials theyll need.
Once you decide on a theme, you can use it to tie in decorations, gifts, even the food and games.
Invitations The theme starts here. For a cooking shower, send invitations written on recipe cards, or cut out leaf shapes for a garden shower. Make it clear if guests are expected to bring a certain type of gift.
Decorations Your local party supply store is a good place to start, and the Internet is also a great resource. Look for paper goods that carry out your theme a floral design for a garden shower, for example. Another good option is to decorate for the shower in the colors the bride has chosen for her wedding.
Food Showers usually involve a light lunch or appetizers. Many stores sell gourmet food products that make it easy to put together an impressive menu.
Games People tend to be split into two camps where shower games are concerned either they think no shower would be complete without them, or theyd rather visit the dentist than play them. Take your lead from the bride on this one; after all, its her party.
Check your local bookstore, library, or the Internet for party game ideas. Chances are youll be able to find a game that ties in with your theme. For example, if youre having a recipe shower, you could play the apron game: attach a variety of kitchen utensils to an apron and have the bride put it on and model it for a couple of minutes, then leave the room. Have guests write down as many items as they can remember; the person with the longest list wins.
Party favors While party favors are not essential, they are a nice touch. Choose wisely, and your party favors can double as part of your decorative theme. For example, for a garden party, use small potted plants with guests names painted on the pots as a place card on the table. When the party is over, guests can take the plant home as a memento. You can also use personalized photo frames, champagne flutes or candles in the same way. If youre throwing a kitchen shower, send guests home with a tasty treat.
Use these tips to plan the perfect shower. Youll be a relaxed, gracious hostess and the bride will have a very special day to remember.
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